In my last article I asked you to consider that your current (and likely out-of-synch) relationship to beauty and luxury is leaving a million unclaimed dollars on the table. Did you take the time to work out the actual cost for yourself?

Even if you’re not in business, the cost of not pursuing your dreams, or allowing yourself to be visible in the world and live your life to the fullest is more than a million dollars. Your very health, happiness, self-esteem and sense of fulfillment are in question, and no dollar amount could ever adequately represent or replace them.

If you did take my advice to heart and you actually set aside the time to discover what an out-of-synch relationship with beauty and luxury is costing you, then let me ask you this: Did you jump on this task right away? Did you shelve it and say “tomorrow” and not look at it? Did you dismiss it as a waste of time? Or did you go into panic and not even consider it?

Here’s the powerful truth. Just like that pile of paperwork and files on your desk, realize that if you ignore your relationship to beauty and luxury, or if you push it away and say “tomorrow”, nothing will change. The only thing that will actually increase is your level of frustration and multiple costs to you, your happiness, your bank account and more.

If you did take the time to listen to last week’s free call (here’s a link), you are now really aware of what you want your life look and feel like, and yet you might still have procrastinated this reality check off for another time.

I want you to know that this is totally understandable and incredibly common. This is what we spend our whole lives doing! The questions that I’m asking you today are, how much longer are you prepared to wait? Will you let this take you to the end of your life and never happen?

Let’s take a look at how these things are really affecting you. On last week’s call I discussed 5 signs and symptoms that you are out of synch with beauty and luxury. Without going into a lot of detail here, those signs and symptoms are:

1) You find yourself having to force, struggle and work really hard to make things happen in your life.

2) You find yourself denying or hiding your true desires from yourself and others.

3) You find yourself feeling jealous, envious or having harsh judgments towards yourself and/or others.

4) Self-sabotaging habits and behaviors are present in one or more areas of your life.

5) You feel a constant push-pull towards beauty and luxury.

Honestly, none of the above signs and symptoms feel very good when you’re living them, and many of them aren’t very pretty, either. But there is an even greater cost when you’re out of synch with beauty and luxury. While there is a very real financial cost at stake, the greatest cost is to your own soul, because when you desire things, you desire them for a reason.

Desire energy is very powerful, and most women have been taught to believe that their desires are suspicious, dirty, sinful or worthy of mistrust. But who put that desire in your heart in the first place? And what becomes possible when you fulfill your heart’s desires and receive that tremendous feeling of satisfaction, fulfillment and peace?

We all desire different things, and these desires are little messages and nudgings from your soul that have a much greater meaning to them than you can actually know at this point in time. You can never know where your desires and decisions are going to take you, and the amazing possibilities that await you when you act on your own soul’s behalf.

Most of us have been operating from a place of deprivation and lack. We hold our desires in check, telling ourselves that it’s wrong to fulfill them – and yes, perhaps there are some desires that are less than honorable… you will know the difference in your own heart and it is up to you to act with the level of integrity you feel is appropriate at all times. But, what’s the outcome of long-term deprivation?

No one hands out gold stars at the end of your life to tell you that you did a great job depriving yourself. Instead, deprivation can lead to all kinds of behaviors and reactions and unwanted impulses that generate a lot of fear, erode confidence, and destroy your sense of self. Binge eating, compulsive shopping and overspending, loneliness, addictions, the erosion of intimacy and trust – all of these and many more are the frequent results of the chronic deprivation of your desires.

How long are you willing to wait for things to change? How long will you deprive yourself of what you really desire? How much longer will you hold the longings of your soul captive, and push away the prosperity that desires to come into your life? Take a look at the ways you are resisting your desires. Have a close look at how you are blocking financial abundance, happiness and joy.

The biggest way that you’re sabotaging yourself and the life you really desire to live is by putting things off until “tomorrow”, or that glorious “someday” when anything and everything becomes magically possible. Your soul is the captain of your ship, and your desires provide a powerful map for you to follow.

Let me give you an example of what I mean. Miranda was 2 years into her business. She had accomplished a lot in that amount of time and surrounded herself with others who were also doing really well in business – even better than she was. She aspired to be like them, admired their lifestyle, the income, vacations and retreats they were enjoying, and the ways they were able to show up in the world and in their businesses. She wanted what they had, too.

But inside of Miranda was a piece that also thought that wanting these things was wrong and scary to consider. She didn’t know if she could really allow herself to dress the way these other women were dressing. She didn’t know if she had that same confidence, or how to access it for herself. She wasn’t sure what her friends and family would think if she started receiving the kind of income these other women were enjoying, and she wasn’t sure who she would become, either.

So Miranda did something so many women do – she unconsciously took herself out of the game. She put herself in a position where she plateaued in her business because she didn’t know which direction to go in. Without consciously knowing it, Miranda decided not to go anywhere.

If Miranda had followed her desires and continued on the trajectory she was on, she would have said yes to that speaking gig, created a high-end diamond package, put out 6 videos, gotten on that stage… she could have created well over 6-figures and started living the life she was really desiring! So what was the missing piece that would have really made this happen for Miranda?

If she had taken the time to connect with her soul instead of thinking she had to be like anyone else, she would have been in a beautiful position to create the income she desired. But instead, she got caught in the push-pull with beauty, luxury and wealth so many women get tied up in. The end result was paralysis, stagnation and al of her fears come true.

This is what I help women do so that they can move forward confidently, clearly and powerfully to create the life they really want without guilt, without stress, without compromising their values or taking themselves out of the opportunities that are showing up in their lives. I help women discover how to be in total integrity with the work they love and the lives they know they are here to have, and to do it with more style, confidence and panache than ever before.

Why leave things to chance when you can be a powerful co-creator of your life and very reality with your own soul? It’s a relief to know that a little clarifying today can lead to massive breakthroughs, action and prosperity tomorrow. Don’t let procrastination, fear and that familiar feeling of soul-sucking deprivation live your life for you. Take the wheel of your ship, get aligned with your soul, and steer it towards the shores of your greatest desires and achievements. You’ll never regret it!