One of the biggest things my clients struggle with is having enough time and space for themselves.

 

The women I work with have big dreams and desires – some of which they are only just starting to admit are important to them.

 

As they begin to connect with and explore the longing that’s in their hearts, they often feel like there isn’t enough room in their lives for what they really want.

 

For many women, the fast-paced, day-to-day rhythm of their lives means there isn’t enough room for the things that are important to them, or even the things that are screaming for their attention (hello relationship or long-standing health condition…).

 

If you identify with this, I’ll share with you what I share with my clients: if you are ready to change this, you must let go of your current definition of “having it all”.

 

Ummm, say that again?

 

You must let go of your current definition of “having it all”.

 

Your current idea of having it all might look like a combination of things like a high-flying career, an amazing relationship, a rockin’ body, endless energy and vibrant health, a beautiful, clean dream house, well-adjusted kids, a bank account that never disappoints… and more.

 

You CAN have all of this… but if you’re going about creating all of this in the way our culture encourages you to, you’re probably also doing everything yourself.

 

And you’re feeling the effects of this stress and strain.

 

You’re exhausted.

You’re barely holding it all together with no end to the craziness in sight.

Your libido might be completely absent 95% of the time.

You’ve had to numb out and just push through so many times now that you just feel… disconnected.

 

And time for yourself? Remind me what that is?

 

You CAN have the life that you dream about. But the reality of having what you want is different than what you’ve been taught to believe it is supposed to be.

 

“Having it all” doesn’t mean that you must double down and nearly kill yourself to create what you want.

 

It’s not about sacrificing yourself. It’s not even about getting smart about time management and using every single moment for productivity and progress.

 

Having it all isn’t about proving you’re worthy of it with your blood, sweat and tears.

 

Thinking that pushing harder is what will take you in the direction of your dreams is an illusion.

 

Because pushing yourself to a point of depletion is self-betrayal in action.

 

You’re not meant to do it all, all the time, all by yourself.

 

Let’s update your idea of what having it all means.

 

Having it all means being brave.

 

It means getting honest with yourself about what matters most to YOU.

 

It means prioritizing those things in your life and living your life accordingly.

 

Having it all means being willing to courageously prune away and let go of the things that aren’t in alignment with the longing that lives in your heart.

 

It means letting go of thinking you should do it all, and instead getting selective about what’s really going to feel good, generate joy, and create more life in your life.

 

Having it all means honoring and choosing yourself FIRST.

 

So, what is that one thing that keeps calling you? The thing you think about and long for – perhaps more than you want to admit?

 

THAT thing is important. That thing is a divine nudge in a particular direction. That thing – or the journey towards the fulfillment of it – gets to be a priority in your life.

 

Because a woman who knows how to honor herself, honors her hunger and her dreams.

 

If you feel like there’s not enough time for you, or the things that your heart aches for the most, look at what you spend the most time, energy, and resources on.

 

Are you on that list?

Is your desire?

 

If not, it’s time to make some adjustments and come into alignment with what is real and true for you.

 

Being true to yourself is the inner revolution that changes everything. Let your desires spark that revolution and the uprising of YOU along the way.