Amidst the global pandemic we are all living in right now, there is another pandemic that’s raging without any sign of slowing down.

It’s the pandemic of thinking that we can somehow make a dysfunctional, toxic or inherently broken situation in our lives manageable, livable or better.

We have a tendency to hold fast to situations and things like this when we’ve invested significant amounts of time, energy and financial resources into them. We tell ourselves that it would “be a shame” to let it go now.

So many women wonder how long they should “stick it out” or wait for things to change. They’re living in a very real place of torture – wanting, waiting, wishing and wondering.

I do not know when or even if you should leave a situation that hasn’t been or isn’t currently working in your life.
I do not know if it is truly toxic and unfixable.
I do not know if it is salvageable or worth trying to mend, or if you should stay the course.
I do not know much time you should give to things before you make a decision.
I do not know what is ultimately best for you.

What I do know is that a lot of women are giving everything to things like this – spending

hours, days, weeks, years, even decades of their lives trying to make toxic, broken things work – when in fact it is the wrong thing!

While we spend so much precious time and life force trying to make this situation or thing tenable, doing so sucks the happiness, confidence and lust for life right out of us.

We tell ourselves convenient little lies about how it’s not that bad, it’s not the end of the world, no one has what they really want, and that we should just be grateful with what is. We make excuses, come up with very rational justifications and reasonable reasons for why this thing is the way it is, why it’s not a big deal and why we can and should just live with it.

This is very tricky, sticky, hard stuff!

The thing we don’t always see is that when we try to fix the unfixable, we simultaneously start living in a way where it becomes impossible to have the life we really want.

Every day I speak with women who are enduring something in their lives – their home environment, their job, their marriage, their health, their sex lives, their incredible degrees of resentment and exhaustion… I’ve been there too! It’s so easy to find yourself in a place where you’re perpetually tolerating something (or many things) that you have a serious aversion to, wholeheartedly dislike or even hate.

It’s so easy to start sleep walking through your own life, and not even know that you’re doing it.

When you live like this for a long time it can be easy to believe that you can’t have what you really want – because it doesn’t exist or for whatever reason, you in particular can’t have it.

When you live in a perpetual state of swallowing a status quo that hurts, you may even be convinced that this is as good as it’s ever going to get.

You might get so fixated on this thing that you’re determined to make work that you fail to see there is another option, another something that’s waiting for you to choose it – something that is waiting to wholeheartedly choose you back.

This is why the work that I do is so revolutionary.

I stand for women who believe – sometimes without a shred of proof – that there is something better, bigger and more beautiful for them than what they’ve been quietly tolerating for years.

Because there IS.

I help women confront the life-long conditioning, false beliefs and paralyzing fears that have kept them trapped – wanting, wishing, dreaming and hoping things will change.

Because that thing might not change, but YOU CAN.

I support women in really owning and choosing their truth over traditions, etiquette and societal norms that have become toxic and harmful to them.

Because being true to yourself helps you FREE YOURSELF.

I teach women to honor, love and choose themselves, again and again and again.

Because choosing yourself is GENEROSITY IN ACTION.

I guide women to discover, listen to and honor the deep wisdom and truth that lives inside of them.

Because your inner wisdom will NEVER LEAD YOU ASTRAY.

I show women how to reclaim, celebrate and radiate their aliveness into the world.

Because enlivened women can CHANGE THE WORLD for the better.

I help women let go of what no longer serves, choose what is right for them, and create the lives they really want.

Because YOUR LIFE BELONGS TO YOU.

From the small act to the grand gesture, there are so many ways you can choose yourself. You’ll know it’s happening when you feel yourself come alive, because coming alive only happens when you choose yourself. And choosing yourself is always the right thing!

There is so much of yourself that is waiting to be discovered and loved. There is so much of

your life that is still waiting to be lived.