Wanting more for yourself and for your life is essential and important. And it’s time to let go of the conditioned guilt we carry about having desires in the first place.

Our desires are normal, necessary, natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

Desire is the energy of creation. They are what propel us forward, upward and onward in our lives. And as women, we are wired to want more!

Women are constantly changing, moving, flowing and growing. And when we are in an awakened and healthy relationship with our desire, we literally create worlds.

“Desire is the feminine in action. It is creation itself.” – Sarah Entrup

Sometimes what we want is actually a request for less – more space, more time, more emptiness, more solitude, more quiet, more unstructured, unscheduled time. And sometimes what we want is a request for more – more community, more meaning, more touch, more pleasure, more orgasms, more truth, more intimacy. MORE.

Yet we’ve been taught to feel guilty about our desire and taught to believe there is something wrong with us if we’re not happy with the status quo. We’ve been programmed to believe we’re selfish, un-spiritual, and greedy when we want something that’s beyond what’s here and now.

This is where our toxic relationship with desire gets formed – not from our desire itself, but from what we’ve been taught to think and feel and believe our desires mean. If you’re living in an unhealthy relationship with desire, chances are you’re asking and telling yourself things like…

Is it okay?
I don’t really need that…
Am I too much?
It’s not that important.
Am I too big?
Nobody has that.
I’m not being spiritual.
What’s wrong with me?
Am I just being selfish?
Why isn’t this enough?
I don’t deserve that.
Why do I always want more?
Am I enough?
It should be coming from my relationship, my kids, my career.

So often, when we’re in this place of self-doubt, we start looking outside of ourselves for permission – to be who we really are, to love what we really love, to want what we long for, and to live our lives accordingly.

If and when we don’t actually find that approval from the outside, we feel shame and guilt. We hide, diminish and squash our heart’s desire. We try to create distance from what is true for us. And we start looking for all kinds of ways to fill the void that we now live with. We often settle for a symbolic substitute instead of what our heart yearns and longs for.

We binge shop.
We binge eat.
We think it should come from our primary relationship.
We look outside of ourselves for fulfillment.
We do things to try to fill and stuff and numb out.
We start to suck the world, and those we love, dry.

It’s time to get into a healthy, awakened, aligned relationship with our desires. It’s time for us to stop shaming and guilt-tripping ourselves for being who we are. It’s time to embrace our magical, powerful, phenomenal creative capacity. It’s time to connect with our true desire instead of settling, tolerating, resenting and substituting our way through life.

It’s time to start giving yourself permission – full, delicious, empowering permission! – to have your desires.

Desire is a big, powerful, juicy, motivating, inspiring thing. When we allow ourselves to stay connected with it, to celebrate it, and to create a life that allows us to experience and enjoy our desires, we feel fulfilled. Vibrant. Alive. Radiant. Beautiful. And full of potency and light.

Your MORE is needed. It is necessary.

Your MORE is evolution. It is the next unfolding.

Your MORE is you honoring yourself – who you are now, who you are becoming, and all you are being called to be.

No matter how successful or satisfied or content you are now, your desire for MORE will always emerge again.

And that is a very good thing.