There are things in my life that I’ve really mastered. For example, after years of study, experimentation, and a lot of trial and error, I’ve really figured out how to get my diet and my kitchen to support and nourish me in the best ways possible. I’ve also become really adept at fine tuning and both whenever I need to, because the body’s needs change as we do.

But there are other areas of my life that I work on constantly, because they’re things that are an ongoing practice for me. Things like…

Unapologetically taking time for myself
Remembering to fill my cup first before I give to others
Saying a clear no without fearing I will lose the other person’s love
Holding myself in the highest regard, no matter the situation or circumstance
Setting self-honoring boundaries – even with my nearly 4-year old son
Making decisions that benefit everyone involved, including me

I practice these things ongoingly because there are times when I still feel like I’m not enough.

There are times when I fall into the trap of wondering and fearing what other people must think of me.

Some days I find myself wondering what a “good” mother, friend, daughter, co-parent, business owner or perfect person would do, and I try to fill those shoes.

There are times when I fear I’m being selfish, self-centered, high-maintenance, needy and too much.

Sometimes I catch myself thinking that it’s better, or even necessary for me to keep going and pushing, even when I’m fried, and I really need a break.

This is why I’ve made it a daily, ongoing, never-ending practice to honor myself. Because when I honor myself, no one loses, and everyone benefits.

I know what happens when I don’t honor myself. I get really tired, my patience disappears and I get super stressed. I start to feel resentful, victim-y and overwhelmed. My tolerance for chaos and unpredictability plummets. And I really don’t like who I’m being or how I feel when I let things get to that place.

But when I do honor myself, everything changes.

I create the space and time I need to feel so I can give myself what I really need. I get clear on what’s important and I let the “little things” go. I remember who I am, where I’m going, and how I want to feel along the way. I reconnect to my inspiration, joy and truth. I find creative solutions to challenges. More than anything, I really like who I’m being and how I feel when I live my life from this place.

If I slip into fixing, people-pleasing, over-extending and/or judging myself (because this still happens from time to time), I come back to the thing I know changes everything in an instant. I make a self-honoring choice.

So, if you wonder where your joy and vitality have gone…
Or you’re feeling the effects of perpetually burning the candle at both ends…
If your life is feeling like it’s on the brink of being out of control, or it’s already there…
Or you know that what you really need is some time and space to yourself, but both are non-existent in your life…

It’s time to ask yourself, “Am I being selfish enough?”

And make a decision that serves the very best version of you.