It’s the first Sunday of December!

How are you?

In full transparency, this last week felt a bit like this to me…

No myth of perfection here! 😂

As a coach, I make it a practice to not project a false image about who I am.

You’ll hear from me when things feel beautiful and I am grounded and in an expanded state of awareness about who I am.

But you’ll also hear from me when things go sideways, and I don’t know where the fortitude and patience are going to come from to make it to the end of the day.

This isn’t because it’s easy for me to share about the times when it’s only 9:45am and I’m already counting down the hours until I can crawl back into bed.

It always feels vulnerable and scary to be as visibly transparent about the hard stuff as I endeavor to be.

But I want to be real about what this journey of coming home to yourself and living according to the truth of your soul can look and feel like.

This last week was hard, for many reasons.

I did learn a lot. I did find gratitude and clarity and nothing was lost or wasted as I navigated some deeply challenging things.

But I also want to be clear: there will be some moments, some days when there is no sugar on hand, and no lemonade to be made.

There will be times when it feels like it’s ALL lemons!

 

 

Rather than fight what is, or try to make it better, or cover it in toxic positivity that waters down the situation, there are times when the most powerful thing you can do is to simply acknowledge and accept that something is super hard.

There are times when surrendering to the truth of a situation or circumstance can set you free – which is really what I want to share with you today.

I used to believe that one day, after years of personal and spiritual work I’d arrive at this magical place where nothing bad would ever happen again.

I thought one day I’d get to a point in my life where everything was amazing and magical and I wouldn’t “attract” hard stuff into my world.

And that every time something challenging or downright awful happened, it was a sign that I still needed to do more work – because this is what the church of New Age Groupthink taught me to believe.

If anything negative, difficult or bad befalls you, well, that’s just a sign you have more work to do.

Because if you’re conscious and awake, those things just don’t happen.

Well, in case you are caught up in this thinking even just a little bit, I’m here to tell you it’s all a lie.

Life is life. Sometimes it’s delightful and you are in awe of the beautiful magnificence you get to be a part of.

Other times it’s an utter sh*t show and you feel bewildered by how atrocious, ugly and difficult things can get.

It is what it is. And in the next 20 minutes, or 6 hours, or by tomorrow morning one of 2 things will happen:

1) The circumstances will have changed

OR

2) How you view and relate to your circumstances will have changed

No matter how evolved or enlightened or awake, healed, and aware you become, every once in a while you’ll have one of those moments or days or weeks that have you reeling and wanting to crawl into bed at noon.

As much as you might reflexively give the situation a lot of power, I’m here to remind you that the true power lies within you.

The power lies in the decisions you make in response to the thing, situation, or circumstance.

How you show up is entirely up to you.

You could try to fight what’s happening. You could rage and riot and stomp and scream.

You could fall into a puddle of tears on the floor, wail and moan and curse.

You could throw your arms in the air, say F it, and decide to join the circus.

You could sink into the moment, feel all the feels, accept what’s happening, and then make a decision to keep on keeping on – because sometimes that’s what you have to do.

My point is that what matters is what you do NEXT.

Let yourself acknowledge and feel what you need to feel – disappointment, anger, grief, envy, rage, sadness, resentment – all of it.

And then, decide how you want to show up in spite of all you’re feeling and all that’s happening.

Because you don’t always get to choose your circumstances, but you DO get to choose how you want them to affect you.

I invite you to step into your power and decide what you want these final days of 2022 to be about for you.

Lots of love,

Alicia

PS: If you’re looking for a little inspo to get you through the end of the year and beyond with a bit more grace and lot more humor, here are some ways I can help!

1) Follow me on Instagram here

2) Download my “8 Inner Shifts for Stepping Into the New You” document here.