Honoring yourself in real life isn’t just about self-care. 

It’s not just pedicures and massages or taking a long hot bath after a hard day.

Honoring yourself in real life looks like…

Dedication. Commitment. Devotion.

And practice, practice, practice.

It’s looks like listening deeply for the quietest voice within, but also being prepared for the loud roar that can come forward in times of need.

It means no longer bullying yourself, but instead, talking to yourself in the most gentle, generous, and clear tones.

It means saying loving and true things to yourself, such as, “You’re awesome no matter what.” And “Don’t give up. Keep going!”

It means staying in your own lane and reminding yourself, “Pay attention to you. Do YOU. That’s where your focus matters most.”

It means repeating powerful statements about yourself, to yourself, like “I am a powerful creator. I honor and follow my inner knowing. I love myself no matter what.”

Sometimes it means talking to yourself like this all day, every day. 

It means doing the basic things that support yourself from the foundation up: drinking plenty of water, eating high quality foods at regular intervals through the day, moving your body in ways that feel good and challenging, and going to bed early to get the amount and quality of sleep you know you require.

It also means being a watchful guardian for those mean voices that were programmed in so early on – the ones that say judgmental, derogatory, hateful things. Negative self-talk will likely make an appearance.

Honoring yourself means learning where those scripts came from or what triggers them, but never giving them the microphone or stage. 

It means not letting fear, doubt, and negativity take you down, or take over. It means knowing they are less powerful than you. It means considering making friends with them, but only if it will serve your greatness.

Honoring yourself means being more intentional with the true cost of things, and knowing the true exchange of life force for whatever you are investing yourself into. 

It means buying less, but higher quality. It means not buying the thing that’s on sale, just because it’s on sale. If it doesn’t make your heart sing, it’s not meant for you.

It means putting the screen away, and getting present with yourself and those you love.  

It means saying NO to working in the evenings, and going to bed even when your inner 7-year-old is throwing a tantrum because she doesn’t want go to bed that early.

It means celebrating the small victories, and the big. It’s also reframing your setbacks as opportunities to practice, grow, enhance, and strengthen. 

Honoring yourself means surrounding yourself with support, kindness, and dear ones who will lovingly call out what needs to be called out. It means asking for help and trusting those who will walk with you while you untangle the things that trip you up.

It means making time to do what you love – or discovering what you love – and never apologizing for or undervaluing your desires, passions, and dreams. 

It means letting go of needing to be liked – not because you want to rub people the wrong way, but because you know your people will like you. It means knowing you won’t have to contort yourself or work hard to be liked by them.

It means navigating life from a place of wisdom, power, poise, and choice. It means checking in with yourself often, and staying up to speed with who you are from day, to day, to day.

When you honor yourself, you show others how you like to be treated. You set the standard and the bar. You reinforce those standards every day in the choices you make and how you show up (or not) for yourself.

Self-honoring is an inside job. Only you can honor you.

Is it easy? No.

Is it necessary? Absolutely.

The quality of your life today reflects the choices you made yesterday. The quality of your life tomorrow will reflect the decisions you make today.

If you desire a high quality life, then make high quality choices.

Now it’s your turn. Be honest.

Is it time to start seeing yourself differently? 

Upgrade your choices? 

Raise the bar? 

Stand strong and true in your value and worth? 

Stop playing a role and instead allow yourself be who you really are?

Only you will know the answers to these powerful questions. 

If you’re unhappy with an area of your life, and you want it to change, then start making different, elevated, upgraded choices. 

Set the bar and standard HIGH.

What is meant for you will meet you there. What is not will fall away and make room for what is.

Never forget, what you are wanting is also wanting you. Clear the way for it to find you. Become the magnetic match for it.

Then, watch your life blossom into all it can be. Let it become a masterpiece.

Lots of love,

Alicia

PS: If you’re ready to raise the bar, uphold higher standards in your life, and live into what’s really possible for you, here are some ways I can support you in doing that today:

1) Follow me on Instagram here.

2) Download my “8 Inner Shifts for Stepping Into the New You” document here.

3) Connect with me in a 1-on-1 conversation and let’s discover what’s holding you back, where to begin, and how working with me can make all the difference.