I recently made a big decision around my son’s education. It’s the kind of decision that has some major rippled effects in my life – finances, commute time, friendships, and more.

 

It was a decision that was difficult… until it wasn’t.

 

I had so many high hopes for the school Ocean attended last year. I’d fought for the potential of what the school could become. I invested time, energy, blood, sweat, resources, and tears into it.

 

But when I got honest with myself, even amidst the things that were good, the reality was vastly different than I wanted it to be. 😥

 

It was a more of a “mission impossible” that I’d originally realized.

 

When it came down to it, my truth was that I didn’t want to have to fight so damn hard for what the school could become.

 

Instead, I want my son to be able attend a school that was already living up to its potential. A school where I do not have to work so hard and fight for what could be.

 

I’m happy to say that we have found such a school for Ocean, and he will be changing schools for this up-and-coming school year. 🎉

 

But all of this made me think about where else in my life I’ve been fighting for what I know is possible. Where else in my life I still do battle to get my wants and needs met.

 

This isn’t to say there aren’t things worth “fighting” for. Some things require ongoing effort and care, and I am willing to put in that kind of work for the things that matter most to me. 💯

 

What I’m talking about here are the fights and battles that require you to work your a$$ off for something that may or may not be worth the outcome in the end.

 

The kind of circumstances, relationships, or experiences where you know you’re signing up for yet another uphill battle that you may or may not have it in you to fight for.

 

As I asked myself where else in my life I’ve been doing battle to get somewhere or have something, I realized how much I’ve been fighting hard my whole life. 😳

 

Fighting to be seen, heard, and understood.

Fighting to be loved.

Fighting to make the impossible work.

Fighting for what I believed in.

Fighting for care and attention.

Fighting for what I knew was true and right and good.

Fighting to belong.

Fighting for something I’d never had.

So much fighting!

 

What I realized is that I no longer want to fight. I no longer wish to do battle. I no longer have it in me to work so hard for so little return on investment. 🔥

 

Fighting like this only depletes me and breeds resentment in my heart.

 

I’ve had enough of that.

 

Instead, I am a full-bodied “YES!” to higher quality, higher standards, and greater outcomes.

I am a resounding “YES!” to experiencing greater ease. ❤

 

I no longer glamorize having to work my fingers to the bone.

 

I no longer sign up for scenarios that are going to require endless, tireless, thankless hours of labor.

 

I am a clear NO to the idea of “No pain, no gain”. Nope. I do not agree to that anymore.

 

When I released the habit of constantly going to battle and fighting for whatever there was to fight for…

 

And I started to follow where the sense of ease, and peace, and simplicity were instead …

 

It was an incredible relief to let go of the perpetual fight. 😊

 

It was liberating to instead say YES to what is working, what feels good now, what is meeting my standards and expectations, and what is worthy of my time, energy, attention, and resources.

 

It felt good to NOT accept another mission impossible, but to instead redirect my energy toward what is already working, and what is already true.

 

I’d forgotten that life does not have to be a fight or battle.

 

Life gets to be meaningful and filled with beauty and magic. 🌈

 

Life gets to be a wonderful adventure that fuels, fully supports, and serves me.

 

Life gets to be as amazing as I will give myself permission for it to be.

 

And it will get to be all these things faster when I say a clear NO to needing to do battle, wage war, and fight tooth and nail for every little possibility of goodness there is.

 

A woman who truly honors herself knows her worth. 👑

 

She knows she does not have to prove her value by constantly working, fighting, and doing battle.

 

She knows she is here to enjoy her life, and that she can have what she wants without having to sacrifice her vitality, beauty, or power to have it. 💫

 

Where in your life are you perpetually at war? Doing battle? Having to fight for what you want, need, or desire?

 

What would it be like to let go of the war? Start following peace, ease, and all that feels good?

 

What then?

 

If you are willing to discover it, I promise you there is an easier, better feeling way.

 

A way that doesn’t require you to fight, do battle, go to war, or work your a$$ off until you’re exhausted, resentful, and doubting your worth.

 

Finding that easier way requires you to pivot your attention away from the battles, fights, and wars, and to instead focus on peace.

 

Imagine the time and energy you’d save.

 

Feel into the enjoyment that would simply get to be. 🎈

 

Rest into the newness of what it could look and feel like to honor yourself at this level, and in this way.

 

What could become possible for you if you did that instead?

 

 

 

 

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