In one form or another, we’re all looking for ways to feel more orgasmic. When I use the word orgasmic here, I’m talking about that thigh-trembling, mind-blowing celebration of all of your senses that you experience when you’re having really great sex, or when life is feeling off-the-charts amazing to you.

You might not think about living life according to these terms (orgasmic is a little… edgy…), but consider what your motivation is for doing most things in your life. The primary motivation any of us has for doing anything is because we think we’ll feel better (orgasmic, even) in the having or the doing of that thing. We believe it will please us, make us happier, and in the end, delight us from head to tingling toes in ways that were previously lacking.

Even today, focusing on just how orgasmic your life can feel, and then taking action to support that feeling, can seem like very audacious things to do. It’s amazing how revolutionary pleasure still is in 2017!

But here’s the important thing to remember: when pleasure is absent from your life, you will feel like you’re trapped in a life that is not your own. You’ll even feel confused about why you don’t feel happy or grateful for what you do have. And you’ll wonder if this present reality that you’re living is all that there is.

It’s surprising, and more than a little heartbreaking, just how many women don’t think much about tolerating a serious lack of pleasure in their lives. It’s as if they’ve been brainwashed into thinking that lackluster living is all there is, or all that’s available to them. They’ve fallen into an all too common misunderstanding that they can’t have it all, that they have to work really hard to have what they do have, and that they should be grateful, even if they’re unhappy, no matter what.

This is what happens when women neglect their God-given birthright to live and enjoy a life that is brimming with orgasmic pleasure, happiness and delight.

Here are 10 telltale signs that you’ve lost sight of your life’s orgasmic potential:

• Feeling less like a woman and more like a machine
• Wondering if this, meaning your current reality, is as good as it gets
• Feeling exhausted, uninspired, unmotivated, and like burnout is inevitable
• Feeling like you’ve fallen out of love with your life
• Feeling jealous of other women who seem to have it all
• Feeling resentful that you’re always at the bottom of your own priority list
• Feeling guilty that you have little time or energy for your partner, your kids, your friends, or your self-care
• Knowing that your work-life balance is askew or completely absent
• Feeling like you’re never enough
• Wondering when the last time was when you felt truly happy

If you’re ready to stop the downward spiral and instead start prioritizing pleasure into your daily life, you don’t have to do anything monumental or even remotely radical. It’s actually quite easy to begin to shift things in a positive direction for yourself. The only caveat is that no one else can do these things for you. You, and only you can live into your life’s orgasmic potential, and you can start today.

Do you think you’re ready to step into your truest, deepest, happiest, and most orgasmic life? It’s actually not unusual to answer “no” to this question. But here’s where I’ll ask you to be curious.

If you’re not ready to live an audaciously happy and orgasmic life, why? What are you telling yourself about this very real reality that is just waiting for you to say yes to?

It’s the cultural norm to live a mediocre, half-alive, so-so kind of life. Nearly everyone is living this way, which may make you feel like you shouldn’t want anything more than what everyone else is having, too.

But the truth is that mediocrity, unhappiness and emptiness isn’t what your soul is calling you toward. It’s calling you towards your greatness, and a life that is bursting with beauty, luxury, health and soul. This is why you want more, and why wanting more out of your life is part of your evolutionary calling.

I want to hear from you!

Leave a comment below to let me know what this brought up for you.  And, stay tuned for next week’s blog post where I’ll be sharing my 10 simple & luxurious ways to start living into your life’s orgasmic potential.